Life can be so demanding. Everything seems pressing and has to be done now. In the busyness of living it is so easy to lose sight of what really matters. It happens subtly, each day some new task gets added to the already burgeoning To Do List. Before you realize what’s happening you are going through life doing everything but “the thing” that really matters to you.
In the midst of it all I just want to take a minute and remind you to never lose focus of your purpose, your mission, your goal, your “main thing”. In the words of Stephen R. Covey “The main thing is to keep the main thing the main thing.”
How are you keeping the main thing the main thing?
Excuse seek to remove the blame of (dictionary.com)
Ouch! That definition says it all. Ladies and gentlemen, an excuse is what you use when YOU KNOW that you’re at fault but you refuse to acknowledge it. (We’ll save the discussion of why you won’t acknowledge that you’re at fault for another time 🙂 ).
I could write an essay about excuses, maybe I’ll do a teleclass about it, but that’s not the purpose of this post. Today I want to challenge you to do the following when that excuse starts forming in your head as you walk into that meeting late (again), when you miss that deadline, when you forget to bring that document, when you leave the house dirty. I want you to say “I come against that thought” and accept the blame without trying to justify it.
Enjoy your day!
I would love for you to share if you were shocked at the number of times you had to say “I come against that thought”
Kim Kardashian and Kanye West appear on the April cover of Vogue magazine . Why do I care? Kim wanted to be a supermodel but is limited by her height and curves. Despite not having the facility of a traditional supermodel Kim did not lose sight of her love of fashion or her desire to be on the cover of Vogue magazine.
Kim on the cover of Vogue reminds me to think outside the box, to chase after what I want until what I want realizes that it wants me too. Never give up on your dream. Thank you Kim for a great life lesson.
Has this ever happened to you? A friend gets a new car, let’s say a Porsche Cayenne. You didn’t know what a Cayenne looked like until you saw your friend’s car. What happens next? You start noticing Cayenne’s several times a day. Why are these cars suddenly showing up? They’re not! They’ve always been there but, thanks to your friend, you have just become aware of them.
Taking the time to clarify what you want in life opens the door to opportunity. Once you know what you want your eyes open and you become aware of opportunities that have always been there but you never noticed them before.
What opportunities are you missing because you won’t take the time to get clear about what you want out of life?
Have you noticed that when something is simple or readily available we tend to ignore it? Unfortunately, the very things we overlook are usually what we need most. What are you overlooking that could result in that big shift that you want in your life, your business, your career, or your relationships? Today I invite you to to take a simple step.
I’m not Catholic but there’s something about Lent that makes me pause and assess where I am in my life. Reflection is good. It provides an opportunity to see what’s working, what’s not working, what never got started (argh!), and what can be improved on.
If things are awry it’s a good time to make a commitment to getting back on track. My big goal for 2014 was to be more consistent in my endeavours. For Lent I am making some personal sacrifices to make sure that my actions are consistent with what I need to do to accomplish my personal, spiritual, physical, financial, and social goals.
Assess where you are today in light of the aspirations you have for your life. What’s working or not working? What can you do to get back on track? Share what you’re doing so that I can cheer you on.
When you think about your ideal life do you feel excited or do you feel afraid? If the thought of living a better life scares you it’s worth it to explore the origin of your fear.
There are many reasons why living a life that you really want may scare you. Let’s identify some of them.
1. I’m afraid to live my dream life.
2. I’m afraid to do what I need to do in order to have the life that I want.
3. I’m afraid because I don’t deserve to have the life that I want.
4. I’m afraid my family and friends will treat me differently if I live my dream life.
5. I’m afraid that I don’t want my dream life bad enough to go after it.
Whatever your fear, be honest with yourself and acknowledge it. Once you acknowledge the fear something happens on the inside of you. You are now in position to bring about change in your life. Choose well.
I’d love for you to share in the comments the fear that you identified in your life.
Wow, wow, wow! Does the title of this post sound familiar? As you read this are you having a conversation with yourself about why right now is not a good time for you to change your life? Do you have so much going on in your life right now that you can’t possibly add one more thing? You want to change but…
I know this conversation very well. It’s one I’ve had with myself many times. There’s a quote that described me perfectly, “You can’t wait for all the lights to turn green before you leave home.” This was me. I wanted all the conditions to be right before I could start doing what was necessary to bring about the change that I wanted in my life. If this sounds like you, I want you to know how wrong I was, and how wrong you are too. Everything is not ever going to be perfect. If you want to see change in your life you are going to have to start right where you are, amidst the chaos, the turmoil, the out of orderedness.
You see, the “but” represents the excuses that you make for not moving forward in your life. Until you make the decisionto remove the “buts”, you will never see the change that you want in your life. Remove the “buts”, make the decision, do something that will bring you closer to the change that you want to see in your life.
I’d like to hear what step you are going to take to bring about change in your life?
In Part 3 I asked a very poignant question, “Are you really ready for change?” The answer to this question will define the quality of life that you live this year and beyond. The truth is you will have more of the same in your life unless you are ready for things to be different.
I think this is a good place to pause and take a deep breath in, slowly exhale, repeat. Deep breath in, slowly exhale. The life that you are living right now is a life of your own creation. Your current life is a result of the choices you have made over the years. Once you accept that fact, the life that you want can be yours. That, is pretty exciting!
So, take your lists from parts 1 & 2 and run with them. Recognize and embrace when opportunity presents itself (because it will). Choose to live a life that you want to wake up to every day.
“Are you excited about living a life that you want to wake up to every day?” Let me know by posting a reply below.